Tuesday, December 20, 2016
Sticking a Fork in it
I don't mean all the words, like these ones here, but rather the ones we make that are dramatic declarations with a purpose to guide us through the upcoming new year.
We're an introspective group, we bloggers.
Back in January of 2016, I made the bold statement that ACTION was going to be the word to guide me through the year. Taking action instead of sitting back and considering action. But you can't always predict what the year will bring.
This year did not bring so much action as it did suck. Lots of things sucked. Not everything, not by a long stretch, but many things. And those are the things that are hard to ignore.
My reaction to suck-related stress is stasis. That's the cancerian and INFP in me, I retreat to my safe place to regroup. I listen to "Wait for it" from the Hamilton soundtrack ("... I'm not standing still, I am lying in wait ...") and consider how to take that propensity to stand still and spin it to something more positive. At lunch with a friend, we both bemoaned our tendencies toward ambivalence. "That's it! My word for 2017 will be 'bivalent' because I'm so sick of being ambivalent." Only "thing is, bivalent isn't exactly the opposite of ambivalent so I might need to rethink that one a bit more.
I've spent more than my fair share of time this year lamenting the suck. Primarily, I blame politics. The whole process, not this side or that, not your side or mine, but the overall giant beast created by our contentious political process. Plus other stuff. And it's made it hard to focus on the really good stuff that was in my life.
And good things did happen: We sold a house. My kids did great in school. We all made new friends. We went on a family vacation. I enjoyed adult beverages on my porch. I was with my mom for her 80th birthday. I successfully co-produced Listen To Your Mother OKC and co-sponsored the Oklahoma Women Bloggers Minicon. My husband continued to like his job. I added new clients to my editing/writing roster. I was able to offer help to those in need. These are all good things that were a part of my life, and sometimes a reminder is nice so I don't get trapped in the swirling mess of suck.
But I've grown tired of hearing how badly this year has sucked. I'm done focusing on that. First of all, I'm a firm believer in learning lessons through every experience, good or bad. And I also believe we can't run from the suck; we must embrace the suck, live through to get past it.
So, I don't know what 2017 is going to bring. I'm sure that for every moment I'm shouting joyously from a rooftop there will be one when I'm lamenting the sucking suckfest and about five where I'm just navigating my day between the extremes.
So, here's to getting through it, the best we can.